I hate him.
Online relationships can be headachy. At times exasperating. Who's with me here?
Finding community is about boundaries.
BOUNDARIES.
And let's be real here. Writing online can be tough. Reading messages online can be tougher. I've been learning that I have control of my time and self-care is so important. I get to choose what I filter in and what I say "no way Jose" [by the way, who is Jose?] to.
Oh, did I mention who I have the love-hate relationship with?
Facebook.
And you thought I was talking about a guy now, didn't you? Perhaps for you it's YouTube or work emails or Hulu. I took a 4 year sabbatical from internet at my home and I'm 5 years strong from TV. At times I'll get online to watch a show or two but my tendency of stress is gluttony in all things. I can get too focused on a good thing and turn it into a negative. It's not everyone's struggle.
I chose to put boundaries on my relationship. And it's good. So good. Yet, I haven't completely cut off the relationship from my life because there are benefits: I have celebrated significant milestones, reconnected with high school friends, and even supported college students in their trials and heartbreaks through FB [I advise and mentor undergraduates].
My most recent support has come in a different way. Giving encouragement is easy for me, receiving and asking for it is hard. Yet I have been through a challenging season with transitions in all areas: work, church, home and my mentor and hero of a Grandma that I call "Grams" passing away. So I HAD to ask for support by sharing all the stress in my life.
And it was good. Really good.
And it was good. Really good.
I found this beautiful thing called community: Family. Friends. Colleagues.
Students.
Students.
Assignment: Return to paper with a journal, write 1-3 sentences every day about what you are doing (Completed 8/13/13 @ 11:30 PM)
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