Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Long Pause

I got over internet blogging about dating & marrying well...and I was about to begin...but then...then...eh.  Long pause.  I didn't know what to say.  I know, I know.  If you know me, you know that I like to verbally process.  I also like to write things out.  It helps me to think.  To ponder. 

Yet, the thinking has stayed in my head.  So here's my head on paper.  (I hope I don't get a headache!)  That was such a duh joke.  Sorry.  See?  That's what happens when you get me going!

Here's the thing.  I only want to write things that would be edifying.  That would help others to learn and grow.  I don't want to write about friends as I value their trust in me.  What would I write about in my lack of a love life?  Okay, there may be some good stories but again it goes back to not wanting to bash men.  Not my intent at all. 

So here's some ideas I've been mulling over:
*  Comment on articles I read
*  Ask friends to write a piece
*  Write "anonymously", if I use this method perhaps I shouldn't put it on here...
*  Find a love interest and ask their permission to tell some
*  Write "Dear _____" letters, using highly secretive code names


I think I'll start with a piece of my own journey and see where it leads.


-Sushishelley














Sunday, November 13, 2011

Fear Not: A Mini Autobiography

I have this fear.  Yet I have this passion.  So now I'm letting go of the fear and writing about the passion.

Woo.  Give me a sec.  Ok.  Here goes all.

My passion is relationships.  To see healthy and whole relationships.  The funnest - yes, I just said that and I'm told (by me) that I can since it is my blog and all - topic is DATING.  Yep.  I love talking, reading, writing, thinking, and talking some more about dating & marrying well.

The fear:  As a 30-ish singleton I will be a spinster for life.  By talking about marrying I will avoid marriage all together.  Then again, I have inspiration in my life.  Most recent is Ally Spotts and her now fiancĂ© Darrell Vesterfelt.  Ally talked about singleness...and is now getting married!  I thought to myself, "ok, if she can do it" then I can do it.  Plus, Darrell had some great male posts on her site about relationships.  I'd been thinking of asking them how to get started, but I was scared.  Then the craziest thing happen.  They showed up in my small town and the coffee shop I was drinking my latte at.  They were my singleton "idols", okay people it's in quotes so don't worry.

I did go over and say "hi".  But that was about it.  I was all trying to be nonchalant about meeting them.  I knew within myself that I just had to put myself out here in the WWW.

So...here I am.